三和一善 Take notes, speak less

三和一善-在家里呆了1.5年的女性

 根據日本內閣府發布的信息，在日本15至64歲的人群中，有115萬人在家里呆了半年以上。這些人被稱為“繭”。儘管其中超過70％是男性，但一些學者認為，內閣辦公室的定義已將那些在家中做家務，撫養孩子和照顧老人的人排除在外。如果算上這群人，繭的數量不僅更多，而且女性的比例也可能增加。在流行期間，日本婦女經常被解僱。他們不僅失去了收入，還不得不照顧家庭中的長者。尤其是在日本的社交環境中，沉默，內向和內向的女人很容易變成繭，有時會呆在家裡，而且可能待幾十年。

 

現年29歲的安妮現在在一家餐廳做兼職，她的日常工作是打掃衛生。她從小就與父母和弟弟住在一起。一個四口之家的結構並不復雜，但是安妮與家庭成員的關係並不融洽。她從小就一直是一個非常安靜的女孩，而她的父親是一個詢問一切的人。她的母親在隔壁的超市工作，以養家糊口。她每天都去隔壁的超市工作。當她回家時，她沒有時間擔心安妮在想什麼，更不用說整日徘徊的弟弟了。

 

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高中畢業後，安妮選擇進入大專兩年。 “畢業前，學校老師曾經問過我將來是否想做些什麼？我考慮了很長時間，一切都還好。”因此，安妮畢業後，她隨便在一家清潔公司找到了工作，並在那裡住了6年。

 

直到2年前，安妮突然覺得清潔工作很無聊，她想離開這個環境。 “如果我真的想說促使我做出退出決定的一件事，那就是過去六年來我無法應對的小昆蟲，例如蟑螂。”

 

在過去的6年中，安妮與一群一起進行清潔工作的中年女士之間的聯繫很少。安妮告訴父親辭職的原因，父親問她：“接下來你要做什麼？”

 

安妮知道她不應該對父親抱有如此高的期望。於是她走進房間，關上門，在房子里呆了一年半。

(林嘉麗・三和一善　Kazuyoshi Miwa)

 

 

三和一善 - "I'll pay attention next time" It's not the ideal way to apologize

Peter, the company's property management staff, is usually responsible for the management of the order and delivery. Peter usually confirms the catalog in the morning and orders the necessary materials. But one day on the way to work, he happened to have a small car accident and didn't enter the office until noon.

After arriving at the company, he calculated the need to place an order for the materials in a haste. He didn't expect that just after the order was sent, the other party replied: "Because the ordering time is too late, it is difficult to guarantee the delivery on time."

At the moment, all kinds of bad situations flashed in Peter's mind: the manufacturer's delay in delivery will not only be his fault, but will affect the work of other colleagues, and even affect this month's company performance. As he thought, he couldn't help but sweat. Fortunately, the other party took account of the work relationship with the company, and finally agreed at the delivery date so requested.

From a general perspective, Peter's case was handled smoothly in the end. However, what should he do if the manufacturer does not agree to his proposed delivery date?

 

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Many people are afraid of being scolded at work, so they apologize as soon as possible: "I'm sorry, I will pay attention next time." But such a reply is not helpful to cope with the situation. Also, it sounds like a guarantee. However, the same thing will happen again next time.

After a person makes a mistake, he tends to conceal and protect himself. Even if the facts of the error have been made public, he hopes that nobody will dig into the error further. Therefore, it is easy to beat around the bush to the people around you in the following ways:

1. Make up your mind that: "I won't make this mistake again", "Be careful in the future."

2. Alleges that he was too negligent: "It's all because I was too careless."

3. Encourage yourself by saying: "Come on!".

4. Use scenes and slogans to encourage yourself: "thorough recognition" and "strengthen management"

Slogans will uplift the mood, but the momentary excitement will cool down. These words cannot help us learn from our mistakes, and even become a hotbed for the next mistake. When we make a mistake, what we should do is: convey the facts and apologize, control the scope of influence, and establish a mechanism of not making the mistake again.  (林嘉麗）三和一善（訳）

三和一善 |Kazuyoshi Sanwa | 桌子告訴你什麼

 假設您正在考慮是否僱用我擔任某個職位。您已閱讀我的簡歷，並相信我滿足基本要求，但仍想確定我是否真的適合您的組織。我是認真的人嗎？我是老實人嗎我可以迅速掌握新想法嗎？為了回答有關人格特質的這些問題，老闆給了您兩個選擇。第一種方法是讓您在一年中每週兩次與我見面。我們一起吃午餐，晚餐和看電影，直到您成為我最好的朋友之一（您的老闆要求很高）。第二種方法是請您在我不在家的時候到我住的地方散步，並花半個小時環顧四周。您會選擇哪種方法？

 

答案似乎很明顯，您應該選擇第一種方法“厚切片”。和我在一起的時間越長，獲得的信息越多，對我的了解就越多，對嗎？我希望，當您閱讀本文時，您至少會對這種方法有所懷疑，並且您確實應該對此表示懷疑。信不信由你，心理學家已經證明，用薄片來判斷一個人的性格是這種方法令人驚訝的結果的一個很好的例子。

 

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實驗的第一階段是判斷80名大學生的性格。他們使用了一個包含五個問題的問卷，要求學生在以下五個方面衡量一個人的性格：

1.外向性

2.親和力

3.自律

4.情緒穩定

5.接受新經驗

 

結果顯示了什麼？他們對學生外向性的評估遠不如朋友的朋友準確。可以看出，如果您想知道一個人的活潑，健談和外向，顯然您仍然必須親自見他。在這種情況下，朋友也比臥室觀察者好一點。我認為這是預期的結果。但是其他三個人格特質顯示出不同的結果。這些帶書寫板的陌生人取得了良好的效果。他們對自律的評估更加準確，他們在情緒穩定和對新經歷保持開放方面的優勢更加明顯。因此，這些陌生人平均表現更好。換句話說，如果您只花20分鍾思考與我們從未認識的陌生人的相關信息，那麼與他們在一起多年的朋友相比，他們對我們的了解可能會更好。不要為無休止的“知識”會議和用餐而煩惱。如果您想確定我是否是一個好員工，不妨一天訪問我的家並仔細觀察。(林嘉麗・訳：三和一善）

三和一善 | Kazuyoshi Sanwa | Work and speak less?

Once we start working in the society, we must reinterpret the definition of "good". In the past, in school, the better you are, the more the teacher treats you as a good student; now in the workplace, no matter how well you are, the supervisor may still have comments, and you still can’t figure out, "I’m so good, why doesn’t the supervisor appreciate me? ?"

I will only follow orders, anyone can replace you

Okay, let me help you answer! Because you are so good, so good that if the robot's technology improves, the boss will be the first to fire you and use robots instead. Of course, I am not trying to teach you to be "bad". If you are a person who always does not follow instructions and always makes trouble, you will definitely be kicked out of the company's door immediately. But if you think that being obedient and being so will lead you sail for ten thousand years in the company, and then promote all the way, you are wrong.

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Remember, if your function is only to "do what is ordered, listen more and speak less", the supervisor can replace you with a student at a minimum wage. Most of them want an income and they only need to say something when answering the phone. "Hello. This is XYZ company, can I help you? Okay, I will help you transfer to the department", or follow the instructions on the wall: "Boil black tea with 80 degrees water, turn off the fire immediately after 2 hours; sugar 3 spoons, no more and no less." The difference is that this is a part-time job, not a job.

Calm and capable or creative? What kind of leader do you want to be?

The talent that the supervisor wants is that, in addition to solving routine tasks and achieving KPI, that you can identify and solve problems, and then create 200% performance. Because of the fundamental problem, it is very possible that the supervisor will be handed over by the boss to solve it, but he is actually unable to handle it, so I can say out loud: I have to invite a few more people to speak better. It is called the concerted efforts of the company system. Three average-IQ persons are better than one genius; the ugly thing is that the performance is not good anyway, because the subordinates are not doing things well, and they have to find someone to take care of the alternation. All mistakes are their fault, it is not my leadership.

This is the display of ability. You do your duty and the boss pays. Salary is not owed to each other, but in his eyes, you are a white T-shirt that can be replaced at any time. If you can think creatively, solve problems, and open new games, you will be an indispensable branded coat. Exercise your ability to be dissatisfied with routine tasks. Not only can you surpass your boss, you can even become a boss by yourself.